i’m quite aware of any suffering i cause. i do not have an “oh well” kind of attitude. if you are poor and have no bread i will not exclaim “then just eat some cake!”. maybe i wasn’t clear enough that i was greatly aware of the hurt feelings and because i was causing the hurt i was hurting too. maybe saying it once wasn’t enough. honestly, i thought i was being clear but i’ll accept the judgment that i was vague.
but the bandaid has not been completely ripped off. the slow peeling was rather excruciating and there is still a tiny bit left to be removed. after a little wear i hope it will easily fall off. at least the worst is over. i made myself clear and we are left sad and hurt. time heals all wounds they say. this one may take a while.